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Suicide is Not an Option


On December 12, 1992, my brother took his own life......

The consequences were devastating to everyone involved. Maybe this story will help someone who is contemplating suicide to decide against it. Suicide is not the solution that some may think it is. Problems and unresolved issues will haunt family and friends for many decades. My nephew, who was just a baby at the time, would always ask about this uncle. He eventually learned to point up at the sky and say "Uncle Scott". But the reality is that he missed out on having the benefit and support of his uncle as he grew up. And of course, there are countless interactions with family members that will be missed over the decades.

Suicide is permanent. And the effects that it has on loved ones also lasts over a life time. My brother was only 22 years old at the time he chose to commit suicide. I was only 24. I remember going to the viewing and seeing his lifeless body. They couldn't quite erase all of the signs of his violent death. And that image will stick with the living for the rest of their lives. In the end, the temporary pain someone escapes by committing suicide might be overshadowed by the pain and sadness of family and friends. That pain may continue through the decades whenever they think about it.

The missed opportunities for interaction also impedes the growth of everyone else. Countless interactions that would have occurred are all lost now. Who knows how destiny was changed by such an event. The family that he may have had will not exist now. The triumphs and set backs of a life will never be realized. The fulfilment of a lifetime was cut short by a decision that may have been made rashly at a moment of personal confusion or pain. We never know who it is in our destiny to meet and interact with over a lifetime. All of those 'plays' of life will never be able to exist because one of the characters on the stage will not be there to fulfil his role.

So, the total sum of the tragedy is really unknown but it seems likely that over what would have amounted to decades of time, that sum must be quite high. I guess we won't get the chance to find out. Though I am revealing this personal family tragedy to the masses through this article, if it saves a single life, it will be worth it. Drop me a line if you ever want to talk, I would be happy to hear from you.

Dave Snape writes for 'All Things Pondered'. If you would like to use David's discussion/forums website you can visit him at



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